When it comes to sex, “Am I big enough?” has to be the oldest question men ask themselves in the privacy of their own mind. And most of them answer the question the wrong way. You see, men always tend to compare themselves with other people. This always leads to doubts and questions about the size of their penises and performance adequacy. Many men go to ridiculous lengths to offset what they perceive as a shortcoming on their side.

This kind of behaviour is very common. Nearly every man asks himself the “Size Question” and since men are too afraid of the answer to ask the question directly, they never get a satisfactory answer to it. This fear of being too small may grow to become a serious problem for some men. It’s a blight upon their confidence and it may drive them to do silly things. It’s a shame that some men find nothing better to do with their time and efforts than to prove to themselves and to the world that they don’t have small penises.

The average penis size is 5.5 to 6 inches. And since most men have this size and still think themselves below average, it follows that men are not very good at judging their own size. Actually, if you start asking men about the size of their penises, you can be certain that most men would give themselves an extra inch or two, just to come across as really hung guys. And the worst part of all this is the fact that most women care more about the quality and intensity of sex and less about the size of the man’s penis. A bigger organ may look impressive, but if it’s too big to fit comfortably inside the vagina or if the owner is clueless in bed, then all those inches are wasted.

Women are looking for other things aside from a big penis. It’s not that having 7 or 8 inches doesn’t help at all. Women like to eye men before getting into anything serious and a sizeable bulge in the pants scores points with them, but penis size it’s really just an item on the check list for most women. Something akin to: “Penis size check – done. Now let’s move on to something truly important”. Studies and polls have conclusively shown that women are far more interested in partners with good hygiene habits and who know how to bring them to orgasm, big penis or no big penis.

If you’re and average-sized guy and not content with your size, there are a few tricks to making your penis look bigger. The actual penis size can be hidden by the pubic hair. So, if you think you could profit from this, trim your pubic hair. Or you could lose some weight. The pad of fat located at the base of the penis can grow in size along with the overall body fat and may obscure the base of the penis. Losing weight would decrease the pad and bring back the hidden inches. A simple trick is to have a hot shower before sex. The hot water would help fill the penis with blood and make it hang heavier than normal.  

Still, the easiest thing you could do is to have an honest talk with your partner and find out if your penis is adequate in size or if your partner actually cares about this. More often than not, an honest talk is likely to bring up other issues than penis size. That should be the least of your worries.

Sex with a new partner

From time to time, anybody is bound to find himself (or herself, for that matter) face to face with a new partner and heading to the bedroom for the first time of passion. Naturally, this is a good time to enjoy the moment by being a bit nervous, shy and embarrassed. This is the time when both partners wonder about the other’s intimate preferences, about whether they would look attractive enough to each other and also about how to please and be pleased.
                                           
The biggest advice anybody can give you is to relax and take things easy. Rushing things or spoiling a sweet mood by being exceedingly nervous is plain silly. Sex is not a race or contest to see who gets an orgasm first. So what if it takes you an extra 5 minutes? Just relax and have fun, because this is why you are having sex in the first place. Being nervous is good for funny memories because in a couple of years you may look back and wonder: “Why was I so nervous anyway?”

Another good think you can do is talk about it with your partner. Try and avoid the guessing about preferences phase by having a relaxed talk with your partner. I know that most new couples do not talk about sex beforehand, but mature persons should be mature enough to have this conversation. This would be a good time to discuss condoms, STDs and AIDS. You don’t have to tell me that starting a relation on a note of uncertainty and doubt is a real downer. Frankly, visiting the STD ward of the hospital or waiting for a letter from the AIDS testing lab is even more of a downer. And if you’re changing partners often, then you may want to have this discussion before getting to business.

With that out of the way, you can move the discussion to positions, fantasies and pleasure. Or you can wait until you’re both naked and see what the other likes without words. Still, skipping the talk could mean skipping some passion time. Suppose both you and your partner love fast, hot sex with a minimum of clothes being shed. If you go directly to the naked part, then you’re not likely to find out about this shared preference for fast action.

And try not to take the first sex session too seriously. It’s never going to be perfect. Two people who’ve never had sex before are very unlikely to get it right on the first try. It takes time to learn what turns on the other, what makes the other go crazy with pleasure and what place and time are the best for sex. These are things that two people having frequent sex get to learn about each other in weeks, months, years. There’s no point in rushing things and there’s no point in being mad when something goes wrong. Such is life. Have fun and stay safe.